Just be!

It may seem like a joke but "just being" sometimes is harder than it sounds. Although many may look at the idea of just being as something inferior to the major list of things they have to do, many may be surprised that just being is one of the major triggers in fact arguably the top trigger of real happiness in life. 

Many spiritual leaders with real implications of they themselves being in a state of lasting happiness teach that just being and being in the now is the ultimate bliss that one can achieve. 

It may have come easy for them but is not at all easy to reach that state in many cases. Our mind for example is something that we evidently have little control on. One way of knowing that is by trying to stop thinking for two hours or even 20 mutinies straight. If one has tried it, one would see that it is not in one's control to stop thinking. 

It is also evident that when we are around others, it is very hard to just be. There are many things that come in our minds and that we have no control of. "Do I look ok?", "why is that guy looking at me?", am I in a right position?", "do I look cool?" etc. There also are feelings that we have no control of that come along with those thoughts. There are also formalities that we may have to follow when we are around others. Being drowned in so many thoughts projected by the mind, it is inevitable to be some how in the grip of the mind. We of course ride along with it and thus we can not just be.  So just being becomes something that is rather hard to do unlike what we may think when we hear the notion "just be".

So just being may have some threads behind it. There may be other things one may have to do in order to completely just be. The mind actually has tricks in order to put us under its grip in order for us to be in its realm rather than just be.

At first we do have to have a legitimate authority to control the drive of our mind. We also can play tricks of our own to our own mind in order to slide out of its grip. But being totally free of it is something that is a complete different story with a completely different outcome.

What is our purpose in life?

The question "what is my purpose in life?" comes through one's mind quite a few times during one's lifetime.

Many believe that there is a destiny set by a higher power to all of us and they are also many that believe that there is no such a thing as destiny.

Being a human being, it is unavoidable to feel a want for some kind of meaning and purpose. The notion that there is no meaning or purpose would definitely make any human being devoid of something and would leave an empty space in our hearts.

I guess unless we as humans are all knowing, there can't be a definite and sure answer to the question "what is my purpose in life?" One can not say one's ideas about this puzzle is for sure right and the others is for sure wrong because we have yet to know a lot.

We can however go about trying to see this puzzle in a logical way and according to evidences we have and know till date.

According to all the evidences that we human beings have and gathered until now and seeing this puzzle from a point of view of an individual, we may not have been created or made to have or fulfill individualistic purposes. Meaning to say that we as individuals were not created for individualistic purpose and meaning that were preset for us by something else. This is actually according to the insights we have now and may change according to new logical evidences. Even though that may be the case we still are free to have and be devoted to any purpose we choose to have and follow. Also we are free to make any meaning of it all.

When looking at it in a different perspective and not in a perspective of an individual, we were created to fulfill life's/nature's purpose. Meaning to say that life wants to exist and ensure the extension of its existence in this realm now. Not only that, but life also wants to figure all out about this reality through us and for us according to our nature of existence. This is because life is actually us. We are the representatives.

The above notion is a direct result of the scientific evidences till date on the way life exists, reproduces, evolves and on the way how life or evolution reacts to individuals in need and species as a whole. It is also based on logic made by observing the evidences like on what we are as life and what life is itself.

What are feelings?

Feelings are senses that a conscience life form senses. It is a mechanism devised by nature/life/ that enables life forms to feel their surrounding, strive for pleasure in it and run away from dangers in it.

Feelings are actually crucial in making life life. Without feelings, life would be senseless and illogical. So, are feelings real? Of course they are real but they are only real when there is an experiencer or a sensor.

But why do we experience things the way we do? Is that the only way that they can be experienced? Meaning to say, is the sense of burning the only way that fire can be felt? Is sweetness the only way sugar can be fealt?

That most probably is not it. We feel to the tune of the way that is suitable and unsuitable, desirable and undesirable for life to exist in this realm. The extent at which we feel is also the extent at which the action done while feeling is good for our body's survival or bad for it. So it all depends on the sensitivity of the mechanism that nature gave us to be alive which is our body. 

The mechanism that make life exist or mechanisms like us can't exist in cases like extreme heat or cold and hence the feeling of burning and chill and thus discomfort. The differences and distinctions between feelings is for us/life forms to know exactly what is going on when we feel them. The comfort and discomfort which is generally the main objective of feeling is for our conscience or sub conscience to know whether what we are doing is suitable or unsuitable for life to continue its existence at its present form.

How to know one self

Knowing oneself is actually a basic to anything one wants to do in today's world or reach a level of happiness that one wants to achieve conceptually.

These tips on how to know oneself are actually most helpful for those at around the beginning of knowing themselves.

Here are few tips on how to know oneself.

1) It may take a lot of time:-  One needs to know that knowing self is not a one minute thing. It is there to stay for the whole life and to know one self it takes a long time.

2) Spend time with yourself:- At the beginning of the stage one needs to spend time with self and review honestly what is going on in one's life.

3) Get acquainted with all your feelings:- Getting acquainted with one's feelings is a very crucial step. Even if and especially if the feelings are unpleasant, one needs to face them, see them and figure out what to do with them so that one is totally comfortable with them. This again is the most crucial step.

3) Be wholeheartedly true to challenges, desires and happiness felt by self and deal with them according to the honest reasoning given:-  While spending time with self one will definitely feel and notice a lot of things. Challenges, desires and happiness. One needs to be honest in seeing them and then going down and dirty in them. Then if there are things that one needs to do to handle certain things one should handle them according to the honest reasoning that one gave them on how to tackle them.

4) Be honest and let go of things that one can't control or do after honestly reasoning them out:- When one gets in touch with self, one will notice a lot of things and feelings like desire, happiness and challenge. One definitely has to take care of the challenges and all the feelings until one is very comfortable. But when facing these feelings, after trying and reasoning, if one can't do anything about those feelings, one needs to let go and know that no answer is the answer.

5) Don't shy away from personal challenges:- In order to know the weakness and strength of one one need to face up to personal challenges especially ones that concern the self. One never should give them time or shy away from them. This is very crucial.

6) Know likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses:- Having spent a lot of time with self, facing personal challenges and getting acquainted with personal feelings one is for sure to know what one likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.

Every story is a lesson to be learned and a value to be set

We are born into this world blank, with no idea of what's going on and what to do except for the instinct given to us by nature. As human beings, we have it in our nature to learn constantly. Even if we don't weather we like it or not life constantly learns from our experience.

Living in the modern age we encounter different experiences and hear different stories which may be diverse in basis or somehow similar to each other.

Even though some experiences may disturb our chosen way of living, it is good to learn some kind of lesson from all sides.

If one really thinks about it, from all the experiences, there is a lesson to be learned. In fact all experiences are lessons to be learned directly or collectively. Lesson learned inevitably leads to setting up values according to the lessons learned.

Who are we?

We are mechanisms that consist of all components that work together to be able to make us function as we do. It is kind of unacceptable though to us humans to think that we are just a result of materials/ components working together. But if we think logically we are just that. According to science(which is a very logical field to refer to), we came from non being to being a very long time ago when some components of the earth or chemicals, lightning, water and the atmosphere of the earth at the time sparked up and brewed up the first single cellular life forms. After that through millions of years of evolution we got to the point that we are.

If we put faith aside for a moment and try to just reason out according to evidences, this is the best we can do to explain ourselves.

But we have this feeling, this gut feeling that we are way bigger and have way deeper meaning to us. Could that be true?

Well it just might. In fact it is somehow evident we are.

There is something that remains a mystery to science about us. In fact the whole scenario of life is still a mystery. But the real mystery is how and why life evolves. Life seems to know ho and when to evolve. When it evolves it evolves in a reasonable and useful way. Also when species evolve, a whole population of a species evolve the same way. How and why? How does it know? Who is it that knows? It is a total mystery to science. It is also very likely that it will remain a mystery because of the fact that science only deals with things that can be observed and proved also the root of this phenomenon called life is something that can't be observed at all.

There are lots of theories outside of science on what we are. It is hard to judge on which is right and which is wrong. But many including myself believe, if looked deeply enough, they all or some or one may of them may be true.

The logical explanation though believed by some including myself is that we are life itself. If thought logically and according to evidences of observations, this idea seems to make perfect sense and is perfectly logical. We are life and life is us. Life itself being untouchable, unobservable and overall not sensible to us as humans, it is something that is evident to be much larger than us us humans in meaning and in wisdom and to top it all off it is clearly evident that we are it itself. Mind boggling isn't it?

How to be a good liar

Telling a lie is not something that is advisable unless it is completely and absolutely necessary. It is also not advisable for those whose beliefs prevent them from telling a lie at any situation.

According to many, sometimes lying is abselutely necessary and it can prevent some unwanted things from happening in our lives.

Sometimes not being good at lying can even get us in more trouble that net telling a lie and getting in trouble.

Well here are some tips on how to tell a good lie and be a good liar.

1) believe the lie yourself:- Sometimes people can detect a lie just by seeing one's eyes and the way one acts when telling a lie. In order for that not to happen, one has to believe the lie. If one momentarily believes in the lie, one wouldn't show the signs that one may show when telling a lie one didn't believe in.

2) Try to get real convictions to the story so that it would be easy to believe the lie:- For example if one wants to tell a lie stating that one is sick when one is really not, one can try to

- imagine that one is sick while telling the lie

- try to think of little discomforts that one has at the time one is telling a lie and try to believe that they are sicknesses themselves.

- think of a recent sickness and believe that it hasn't completely been cured even if it did and even if it did try to believe that there are some aftereffects.

The above tips help in believing the lie so that those hearing the lie wouldn't detect it on one's face.

3) Don't think of the truth or the fact that you are telling a lie but be bold faced:- Thinking of the truth and the fact that one is lying while telling a lie makes it terribly obvious that one is lying to those that are listening.

4) Try to connect to the stories and try to be emotional according to your normal accord :- Don't over do or under do this step. Because your normal state of feelings are best fit for you. 

5) Don't be afraid to look at the listener right in the eye:- Looking at the listener right in the eye makes the listener think that one has a full confidence and therefore must be telling the truth.

6) Stick to the story:- For one's lie to work in the long term, one should stick to the story through thick and thin whatever happens.