11 very effective ways on how to deal with stress.

It is a known fact that stress is an inescapable reality which is part of a human life. Stress as recently proven can be a major cause of many dangerous diseases and health complications. So stress has to be dealt with accordingly. There are many ways in which to deal stress and some of them are experimentally proven. So here are some really good tips which some of them are medically proven on how to deal with stress.

1) Get well acquainted with yourself and love yourself:- This step is actually the first stepping stone for dealing with a lot of problems. Stress may arise or worsen if one is not well acquainted with oneself and deal with the feelings and emotions that may arise to the extent that best fits one.

2) Always try to look at the positive side of things:- Being optimistic has great advantages in dealing with stress. If one makes a habit of looking at the positive side of things rather than the negative, it has been proven that it would reduce the amount of stress that one may experience in the short and long term as well.

3) Confront and solve challenges and problems accordingly and logically:- In order not to be engulfed in problems and them lead to inevitable stress, one has to always confront, deal and solve problems and challenges that life puts out accordingly, by the time limit that they need to be dealt with and logically. One should not disregard the word 'logically'. If problems and challenges are not dealt logically then it would be like trying to walk in the dark just by feeling the things around.

4) Let go of the things that you can not control:- One needs to learn that it is stupid not to let go of things that one can not control. Of course it is good to give a good try to all things but if it is a situation that one definitely can not control, then the answer that one is looking for is already there. That is to just let go. If not one would be engulfed with uncontrollable and unmanageable stress until one learns to let go.

5) Get enough sleep:- Even though one does not have problems in one's life, not getting enough sleep stresses the mind because the mind is not getting enough rest to regenerate itself. Stress can sometimes be a direct result of not getting enough sleep. So in order to have an enjoyable and stress free life one needs to get enough sleep.

6) Eat right and exercise regularly:- Eating right and exercising regularly are among the great tools in reducing stress both for long and short term results. If we look at the short term results, if one overeats or does not eat enough, the body itself would be in stress and it would be impossible not to feel stressed, lazy and agitated in those situations. When one exercises, there will be an increase of blood flow in the body then as we may have all experienced, there is a feeling of great ease and relaxation afterwards. To look at the long term results, both eating right and exercising regularly help in generating and maintaining a healthy body and mind thus a more relaxed, stress free state of being. 

7) Make and maintain good friends:- We as humans are social animals and just the reality of having someone to talk to reduces stress significantly. Having good friends certainly eases the stress that may be experienced by anyone in many ways. One can go out and have fun with friends which certainly is a lot more enjoyable than doing it alone. The other benefit that one may have of having friends to reduce stress is, one can go and talk to a good friend that one can trust about troubling issues and may find support for the problems and comfort by sharing it with someone else instead of keeping it to self and facing it alone.

8) Be an environment suitable for you:- If one wants to get rid of stress one has to get rid of the stress triggers. If the environment that one lives in is stress triggering for that particular person, that person has to change the environment in order to lesson the amount of stress.

9) Meditate and do yoga:- Meditation and yoga have been proven as one of the greatest and most effective agents in reducing stress and improving physical and mental health as a whole.

10) Have a distant relationship with your thoughts:- One of the major agents of stress if not the major is thought. We may thing that we are in control of our thoughts. But one may be in for a surprise if one tries to stop thinking. Being overwhelmed and drowned by our thoughts is one of the major if not the major agent of stress. 

So what one has to do is try to control one's thoughts. But that is not as easy as it sounds and infact is impossible. 

One of the most effective ways of having some kind of control over our thoughts is instead of trying to stop thinking, one could just disassociate and observe thoughts without judging them, trying to stop or control them or trying to add any thought over them and just observe them as they come and go. This would legitimately give a separate entity of one from thought. This is a very effective way of reducing stress significantly.

11) Make a habit of being in the now:- Being in the now whenever one doesn't have to think or make agendas helps a lot in relaxing one's mind and enjoying anything that life throws at one. Making a time for such a practice helps in the short term and especially in the long run.

How to have a logical mindset.

Being logical is and has been the fundamental building block of modern civilization, science and development. Being logical means being reasonable and mainly backed by evidence.

Although everybody thinks that they are logical, being real logical has its catch.

Here are some tips on how to develop a logical mindset.

1) Increase your knowledge:- Knowledge is power. By increasing one's knowledge one would be exposed to different ideas and thoughts and would give one ground in scattering one's views into different angles.

2) Question everything:- In order to have a totally logical mindset, one has to question everything even those things that one thinks that shouldn't be questioned.

3) Do not take sides in reasoning out:-  Taking sides for one's own benefit is common and reasonable. But when trying to figure things out in order to understand things one shouldn't take any sides for it is common for one to take side and believe in what one wants to believe in.

How to know one self

Knowing oneself is actually a basic to anything one wants to do in today's world or reach a level of happiness that one wants to achieve conceptually.

These tips on how to know oneself are actually most helpful for those at around the beginning of knowing themselves.

Here are few tips on how to know oneself.

1) It may take a lot of time:-  One needs to know that knowing self is not a one minute thing. It is there to stay for the whole life and to know one self it takes a long time.

2) Spend time with yourself:- At the beginning of the stage one needs to spend time with self and review honestly what is going on in one's life.

3) Get acquainted with all your feelings:- Getting acquainted with one's feelings is a very crucial step. Even if and especially if the feelings are unpleasant, one needs to face them, see them and figure out what to do with them so that one is totally comfortable with them. This again is the most crucial step.

3) Be wholeheartedly true to challenges, desires and happiness felt by self and deal with them according to the honest reasoning given:-  While spending time with self one will definitely feel and notice a lot of things. Challenges, desires and happiness. One needs to be honest in seeing them and then going down and dirty in them. Then if there are things that one needs to do to handle certain things one should handle them according to the honest reasoning that one gave them on how to tackle them.

4) Be honest and let go of things that one can't control or do after honestly reasoning them out:- When one gets in touch with self, one will notice a lot of things and feelings like desire, happiness and challenge. One definitely has to take care of the challenges and all the feelings until one is very comfortable. But when facing these feelings, after trying and reasoning, if one can't do anything about those feelings, one needs to let go and know that no answer is the answer.

5) Don't shy away from personal challenges:- In order to know the weakness and strength of one one need to face up to personal challenges especially ones that concern the self. One never should give them time or shy away from them. This is very crucial.

6) Know likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses:- Having spent a lot of time with self, facing personal challenges and getting acquainted with personal feelings one is for sure to know what one likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.

How to be a good liar

Telling a lie is not something that is advisable unless it is completely and absolutely necessary. It is also not advisable for those whose beliefs prevent them from telling a lie at any situation.

According to many, sometimes lying is abselutely necessary and it can prevent some unwanted things from happening in our lives.

Sometimes not being good at lying can even get us in more trouble that net telling a lie and getting in trouble.

Well here are some tips on how to tell a good lie and be a good liar.

1) believe the lie yourself:- Sometimes people can detect a lie just by seeing one's eyes and the way one acts when telling a lie. In order for that not to happen, one has to believe the lie. If one momentarily believes in the lie, one wouldn't show the signs that one may show when telling a lie one didn't believe in.

2) Try to get real convictions to the story so that it would be easy to believe the lie:- For example if one wants to tell a lie stating that one is sick when one is really not, one can try to

- imagine that one is sick while telling the lie

- try to think of little discomforts that one has at the time one is telling a lie and try to believe that they are sicknesses themselves.

- think of a recent sickness and believe that it hasn't completely been cured even if it did and even if it did try to believe that there are some aftereffects.

The above tips help in believing the lie so that those hearing the lie wouldn't detect it on one's face.

3) Don't think of the truth or the fact that you are telling a lie but be bold faced:- Thinking of the truth and the fact that one is lying while telling a lie makes it terribly obvious that one is lying to those that are listening.

4) Try to connect to the stories and try to be emotional according to your normal accord :- Don't over do or under do this step. Because your normal state of feelings are best fit for you. 

5) Don't be afraid to look at the listener right in the eye:- Looking at the listener right in the eye makes the listener think that one has a full confidence and therefore must be telling the truth.

6) Stick to the story:- For one's lie to work in the long term, one should stick to the story through thick and thin whatever happens.

How to change bad habits

Habits are hard to break because of the simple fact that they are habits and the body and mind are used to such actions or thoughts at certain periods of time. Habits obviously form addiction at the end. 

It can be said that the best cure for habits is prevention. Not being in any habitual addiction is one of the greatest freedoms. Any addict trying to recover will tell you that the worst day was the day they picked up the first whatever to use it and get in a habit of using it that they cant stop and may have to go through hell if they don't do what ever it is they do.

If a person is determined enough and divisive enough, it is possible to break bad habits. Here are a few sensible ones.

1) Admit that you have a problem:- What is meant by admitting is admitting to oneself. By admitting one will definitely will be eager to find a way to tackle the problem.

2) Be serious about wanting to break the habit:- Just admitting to self that you have a problem may not be enough. But admitting and wanting to change the habit is the kick start to breaking the habit. One has to be serious about wanting to break the habit or the inner stamina will not be high enough to seriously tackle it.

3) The main thing is changing your driving motor :-  This is the main potent weapon of all. This is for addicts. It has recently been argued that addicts are born addicts. Well it doesn't matter. Once one wants to change bad habits one should try any way to stop those habits. But the enduring change will come when one changes one's driving motors. Meaning to say, goals, desires, aspirations, philosophy towards life etc. When the mindset of one is in a mindset that doesn't allow such bad habits, one is for sure to stop the habits for good. This is a total shift in mind so is not easy to do and not something that happens in a short time.

4) Don't be around agents that will tempt you to fall off the wagon:- One has to be in an environment where triggering agents of the past habit are not around. Otherwise during times that one is trying to change habits, the temptations would be too hard.

5) Get involved and sink in to a life style that doesn't tolerate such habits:- Be around and be involved with people and environment that are totally against such habits and create a life around that environment. That would prevent one to return back to old habits because one would be afraid of loosing one's life.

How to overcome fear of the unknown

Fear is a natural feeling that almost all creatures have. It is part of the natural defense system that helps prevent us not to go to dangerous situations that may put us in dangers way. it is very useful in preventing us from danger. But sometimes we may still be drowned in fear when it is unnecessary and that fear may prevent us from living a stress free enjoyable life and from spending a quality time during certain situations.

There are many types of fears. But now here are some tips on how to overcome fear of the unknown.

1) Know that all there is is Energy, Matter and Life:- Of course there may be other things, but they are not excessable to us. Law of the universe doesn't allow other things from other realms to be in this realm. Also whatever that we may fear out there that maybe unknown is life, the same in basic entity as us.

2) Know that death is not at all something to fear:- It is natural for all lifeforms to fear death. It is because we don't know what is out there after death. But does not knowing justify a terrified state of fear? What if it is real peace and tranquility that we may find after death?

3) Know that nature doesn't allow us to bear anything more that we can handle:- By nature, life shuts down its ability to experience when the experience is something that is more than it can handle. It is the same in all lifeforms.

4) Science confirms there is nothing out there that we can directly experience other than what we already know:- If you are afraid of ghosts or any unexplainable phenomena such as that, science confirms with detailed study that you should not worry. If you believe in it, your mind may play a trick on you. But there is nothing such as that out there that we can directly experience according to detailed study throughout generations.

How to succeed in life

Success is something that can be said to have many definitions. But success in short can be defined as an achievement of a premeditated goal. Success is very important in our human lives. It has no or little relevance to animals. Success is a reward achieved for our desires and our actions implemented in fulfilling those desires. There are lots of ways on how one can be successful. Here are some ways.

1) Have a definite goal:- The first step in succeeding is to know what exactly one wants or if not exactly have an area of destination in achievement.

2) Plan and devise away on how to achieve that goal:- This actually may take a lot longer than what most think. It also takes a lot of effort as there are lots of things to figure out. This is one of the most crucial steps in achieving a goal. When planning and devising a way, most if possible every possible outcomes should be thought through. This step is very crucial. If this step is not done properly, the whole outcome may be undesirable so this step is not one to be done in a hurry. This step can also be improved on on the way of achieving a goal.

3) Build up your confidence:- Confidence is one of the crucial ingredients in many aspects of life. Without confidence one wouldn't have the motivation or strength to go through processes and disciplines and implement them properly.

4) Implement the preplanned steps:- Plan without implementation is like a body without life. So serious thought and action is required on implementing the steps according to plans.

5) Keep your thoughts and desires on the goal:- If one's thoughts and desires get carried away to other things that may make the plan fail, it is very important for one to step back and think about what the goal means to one and get back on track.

6) Surround yourself with people that are suitable for achieving your goal:- If one surrounds oneself with people that may lure one from the path that one has decided to take to achieve a certain goal, one should be sure that one will get lured away. There is an old saying "birds of the same feather flock together". But if one surrounds oneself with people of the same type of desires one can almost be certain they will help tremendously in getting there.

7) Work hard and give proper praise for a step by step achievement.:- There is no escaping from working hard. If one wants to achieve something one needs to work hard. One should also give proper praise to self for the successful steps taken to get to the desired goal.

8) Watch, hear and read things that will constantly make you motivated towards that goal:- It is crucial to constantly be motivated. So it is always good to frequently watch about, hear about or read about things that makes one motivated towards that goal.

9) Always have a can do attitude:- Believing in self is a very crucial ingredient in success. In fact it can be said it is the main one. Always believe in self.

How to resist temptations

Resisting temptations are arguably the hardest thing to do by anyone ever. What makes it so hard is that temptations are feelings that tend to lure us into doing things that we like and enjoy or things that are easier and more satisfying for us while we shouldn't be doing them for a higher reason and purpose.

Here are some tips on how to resist temptations.

1) Stay focused on the main goal:- Temptations usually arise more when one shifts attention to other things and gets lured in to them in thought. The lid untightens and other agents like temptations are free to slide through.

2) Don't entertain temptations:- One might say that just thinking about the temptations is alright. But one is in for a surprise. Entertaining temptations is a sure path to failure.

3) Be asfar away as possible from agents that trigger temptations:- Agents that trigger temptations are gravitating. One has to know that the law of gravity also works on thoughts. So in order not to be gravitated by them one should stay away as much as possible from agents.

4) Try to build a wall around things that you don't want to do:- By building a wall, there would be a lot more at stake if one fails. So one is more likely not to fail.

5) Know that the longer you stay away from them the more power you get and sometimes to completely fall off the bridge all it takes is one:- If what one is trying to resist is something very serious, one must know that the longer one stays away from them the more power one would get. Also to completely fall off the wagon all it may take is one.  

6) Pray:- Of course this might sound silly. But if one has a higher power it might help to pray. One should not underestimate the power of prayer.

7) Seek proper help from proper people:- Sometimes letting people know what one is in might give one clues on how to overcome them when unexpected. The ideas of many is better than one.

                                                                                          

How to be happy

Happiness is arguably the most desired goal of all humans and arguably of all creatures that feel their experience in life. It is total happiness that we humans desire and strive for and we aim to get it in different ways. There are many theories on happiness for example, one theory says happiness is determined by genes, another says that happiness is something that is not to be chased. There are also theories of spiritual teachers like Buddha and others. Religiously it is said that finding God is the key to happiness and all there is on earth and beyond. It is hard to judge on and say who is right and who is wrong. To each his way...  But here are some tips that may help one on getting on the path of being happy and staying there.

1) Be true to self:-  The first step that one can take (if one hasn't taken it already) in order to be happy is to be true to self. To be true to self means to know the limitations and good qualities of self and accepting them in advert accepting who one is totally and unconditionally. After that try to overcome the limitations according to one's needs and desires. This is not a simple process and may take time to achieve(if not already achieved). But one needs to devote time and concentration on finding one's self. So one needs to be eager, patient and persistent. Eagerness will lead the way.

2) Face up to the limitations:- Once one knows the strong sides and the limitation of one's self(honestly), one needs to devise ways of improving on the limitations according to needs and desires. The key to this point lies on not running away from the challenges that one needs to face in order to improve on self. The challenges are within so there can not be running away from them as they are part of one. 

3) Give honest credit to self:- If one has done the above honestly, one is sure to have faced challenges and acquired wisdom about self. That means one has already overcome some or many challenges by sticking to them and facing them. Then one should see the challenges that one has overcome, it maybe within or outward challenges, one should give an honest credit to self and feel good about self. This boosts the confidence of one honestly.

4) Be flexible, optimestic and constantly learn from surroundings:- If all of the above is or has become a thing of the past or child's play, one should know that in order to be happy one should always be flexible and optimistic and should look at the positive sides of life as much as possible. One should also always learn from surroundings constantly.

5) Don't forget to be aware of self:- One should be in constant touch with self and have a constant check on self.

6) One should do things that one enjoys:- All the above is the basis for happiness. Then after that to make the walls, one should do things that one enjoys and slowly get in touch with one's happy side.

7) Generate enough money to treat self:- Without enough money, it is hard to be happy and to treat self according to desires. So one should have a stable income scheme.

8) Meditate:- Meditation is a sure path to calm the mind and the soul. So constant meditation will definitely lead to a happier, calm and peaceful result on self.

9) Be in the now, and don't get trapped in thought:- It is arguable that the final stage of happiness is to be in the now without getting trapped in the thought process whenever desired and whenever not necessary. Being constantly in the now without thought when thought isn't needed kind of stimulates the power there is in the now and that state of being in the now is kind of a blissful state that is hard to explain but exceeds the expectations of the state 'happy' and thus this elevates the state of one's happiness to a whole different level.

How to sleep better

Sleeping is very necessary for the rewinding process that all humans and most animals need daily in order to function properly. It is still not known precisely why we need sleep but without adequate amount, humans can not function properly as they would with adequate amount of sleep. If the state of constant sleeplessness persists it is known to be fatal.

That being the case, it is a known fact that most humans once, or maybe repeatedly face a challenge of insomnia or sleepless state and have a hard time sleeping. That in adverse affects the way of their lives, the way they function and the way they feel at daytime. So at times when it is hard to sleep, here are a few ways that can help in getting a good night's rest.

1) Stay away from Stimulants such as coffee, tobacco, alcohol and other drugs:-  It is advisable that one should not drink coffee at least 6 hours before bed. It is also reported in some studies that drinking alcohol 3 or 4 hours before bed can lead to early waking, sleep disruptions and can disrupt the sleep cycle as a hole.

2) Don't overeat before bed:- It has been reported that overeating before bed and in fact eating directly before bed disrupts sleep patterns and also cause obesity.

3) Eat properly and exercise properly:- Forming a habit of eating and exercising properly are sure paths to a healthier life and also healthier sleep.

4) Take care of situations that you have to take care of:- Sometimes our night's rest may be disturbed by our conscious not feeling at rest. That means that there is something in our life that we need to take care of or correct before our conscious or subconscious gets its rest. 

5) Don't get involved in your thoughts while trying to fall asleep:- This actually is a very potent and important method. It is normal for people to get caught up in their thoughts while in bed that they get carried away in the flood of their own thoughts and lose the precious sleep that they need. It actually is quite hard to stop thinking when we want. The best method to do so is, instead of getting carried away by own's thoughts try to just watch the thoughts as a different entity and constantly watch. That way, thoughts come and go before one's own eyes and slowly one will get drifted away into sleep.