We are driven by forces we can not control.

It may sound somehow ridiculous that whatever one did, does, or will do, even though it may seem it is in the control of one, one has no control over it. Whatever it is we do there are different forces outside our own control that control them. Our thoughts and actions, all are in control of other forces that drive them.
Our thoughts and actions are controlled by basically, nature. Things that we are exposed to, our natural wants and desires, our natural logic and reasoning and our natural given strength to resist our wants and desires according to plan and reasoning. So, even though it may seem that we are in control of them, we really aren't but is nature that is.

People mostly believe in a higher power to save themselves rather than because it is true.

If believers of certain faiths try themselves and search deep inside themselves, it would be clear that most believe in order to be saved and obtain eternal blissful life and avoid eternal death. When people of certain faiths go on a field to preach a gospel that they believe in, they usually try to persuade others by giving them hope of eternal blissful life and a warning that if others don't believe in what they are saying, the unbelievers would be doomed to eternal death or something similar to that.

Avoiding eternal suffering or death and hope of eternal blissful life is of course an adequate reason for anyone to do anything whatever it may be but even that still is arguable. But if so, there should clearly be such a higher power telling us in a very clear way to force ourselves to believe or else face the consequences and that certain power should clearly have the power to do so.

But if not, and if one wants to reason things in all fairness, it is unquestionable that it is not for the selfish reason of attaining something or avoiding something that one should believe in something but rather for the simple fact that that thing is the truth. Otherwise it would be lying to oneself.

Believing in its nature comes naturally and is something that one shouldn't try to do. If something is clearly true, one doesn't try to believe in fact it would be impossible for one to not believe in that clear truth.

Claiming that the thing that one believes in is a perfect, fair and just entity and is all knowing and all doing, and being human and believing in fairness, it is not fair and not of a good moral to really believe in something for the reason of saving oneself but rather because the thing to believe in is true.

What is the natural purpose of life?(The natural purpose of one's life is to just live.)

The question  what is the purpose in life is one of the most sought after question with diversified answers. There are of course many theories to the answer of this question meaning there are a lot of answers that are proposed by many to it.

If one looks at things just the way they are, it would be very clear that we humans tend to complicate simple and obvious things.

The purpose of one's eyes is to see, the purpose of one's hand is to manipulate things,, the purpose of one's respiratory system is to oxidize one's blood cells, the purpose of one's tongue is to taste. It is as clear as that. The natural purpose of one's life is to just live.

What is the use of being formal?

Being formal is acting in accordance with a known and accepted way by the majority especially by those who have a say. 

But what is the use of acting formal? Does it have a backside to it? Is it a must to be formal all the time? When is the right time to be formal?

Being formal actually helps one in many ways. It can even be a life savior in certain situations. Being formal reduces the risk of being out of place, confusion that might arise of not knowing what to do in certain situations when among people and gives one a certain direction in what to do in certain situations especially when among people. No matter what one may think, being formal is the way to go if one doesn't want to risk embarrassment and humiliation of making a mistake because formalities usually are tested results that have gone through generations and have shown to be acceptable by the general population in that area.

Formalities being acceptable by the general population, it is hard to falter in situations where one is observed and judged by the general public if one follows the formalities. Even though in civilized areas it may not matter much, in areas where the outlook of the people is not free and civilized it can be a life savior if one strictly follows it. Even in civilized areas it can save one from embarrassment and bad outlook that may come from the population of that area. For example it might be ok for someone to kiss a neighbors little kid in some countries but it might be looked on as sexual harassment in others. 

There are though times when following formalities may cause harm to one that is following them. For example if one doesn't know when to be formal and when to be casual and is formal all the time, one may loose out in the excitements that life has to offer. It can also take over the personality of one and change it into its like and in cases where formalities are based on religion and culture it can engulf and silence the real personality of a person. If one always follows formalities and ignores one's true feelings, one may be dis-attached with oneself. 

6 Unique and amaizing things in human nature and behavior.

There are many things that we humans possess that make us unique from other creatures. There are also many things about us that boggle our minds and make us ask what they are and why they are there. All in all, human beings possess many things that are hard to explain or are vast in nature to grasp conceptually. Here are a list of some

1) Recognition of the soul:- The soul is a controversial issue. There are many that argue that it doesn't exist at all. There are also many that argue that it is part of an essential nature of all beings especially humans. What makes it unique to us is, it is believed that our soul is the most valuable one and is the only one worth living after death. We humans among all creatures are also the only ones that recognize and ask and wonder about such entity. What makes the soul controversial is that it is not observable.

We humans feel that we have a soul. We feel and have this sense that we are a lot more than just physical entities.

If there is such a thing as the soul what is it? Where is it? Is it the human soul that is the only worthy one to exist after death? Do other creatures have soul? Why can't it be observed by the physical media? Is it immortal?

There are many questions that can potentially be asked of the soul if it exists. The fact that we are the only creatures on this planet that we know as of now that ask such questions makes us unique. The fact that it is unobservable by any physical media makes it an amazing entity if it exists.

2) There are certain sounds that are unbearable for us to hear but frequencies differ from person to person:- There are certain sound frequencies that are naturally unbearable for us to hear. Imagine a person scraping a blackboard with his/her nails really hard. Imagine the sound that comes with it. For many this is a very disgusting sound and is somehow unbearable to experience. Why is it unbearable? Why does the unbearable frequency differ from person to person.

3) The power of belief:- Some may argue that believing in something has no power whatsoever in the physical realm. Well scientific studies do prove them wrong. According to medical researches done on volunteers, patients were amazingly cured when given dummy tablets when they believed that it was real. The question is how did that happen? What is the connection between thought and reality? Does believing make things happen?

4) Hope:- Hope is arguably one of the greatest strength and weakness of human beings. Although may sometimes be blinding and a blurring agent for us to see real truth clearly, it is one of the greatest if not the greatest mechanisms that helps us overcome barriers, cross the uncrossable, rejoice in a time of sorrow, relax in a time of stress and full of life in the face of death. 

Hope may be a feel of reality that may or may not be real. SO is hope a feeling that occurs because things to look forward to are real or is it just a feeling that occurred in order to give us strength and encourage us.

5) Imagination (Reality outside of reality):- Though imagination may not be recognized as real, it does mimic reality to a certain extent and gets one almost to the state of realness. It is amazing and also frighting what our imagination may do to us. In rare cases there are people who see, smell and taste things that they imagine. Imagination again is something that is believed to be uniquely given to us amongst all other creatures. 

Is imagination just a thought? Could it be a level of existence?

6) Dream:- Dream like imagination comes out of thought process. Again just like imagination, it does take one almost and maybe quite to the state of realness as it can. What is dream? Is it another reality? Is it another existence? Is it just a thought process? Is it a lower level of existence? Is it a higher level of conciseness? What is it?

11 very effective ways on how to deal with stress.

It is a known fact that stress is an inescapable reality which is part of a human life. Stress as recently proven can be a major cause of many dangerous diseases and health complications. So stress has to be dealt with accordingly. There are many ways in which to deal stress and some of them are experimentally proven. So here are some really good tips which some of them are medically proven on how to deal with stress.

1) Get well acquainted with yourself and love yourself:- This step is actually the first stepping stone for dealing with a lot of problems. Stress may arise or worsen if one is not well acquainted with oneself and deal with the feelings and emotions that may arise to the extent that best fits one.

2) Always try to look at the positive side of things:- Being optimistic has great advantages in dealing with stress. If one makes a habit of looking at the positive side of things rather than the negative, it has been proven that it would reduce the amount of stress that one may experience in the short and long term as well.

3) Confront and solve challenges and problems accordingly and logically:- In order not to be engulfed in problems and them lead to inevitable stress, one has to always confront, deal and solve problems and challenges that life puts out accordingly, by the time limit that they need to be dealt with and logically. One should not disregard the word 'logically'. If problems and challenges are not dealt logically then it would be like trying to walk in the dark just by feeling the things around.

4) Let go of the things that you can not control:- One needs to learn that it is stupid not to let go of things that one can not control. Of course it is good to give a good try to all things but if it is a situation that one definitely can not control, then the answer that one is looking for is already there. That is to just let go. If not one would be engulfed with uncontrollable and unmanageable stress until one learns to let go.

5) Get enough sleep:- Even though one does not have problems in one's life, not getting enough sleep stresses the mind because the mind is not getting enough rest to regenerate itself. Stress can sometimes be a direct result of not getting enough sleep. So in order to have an enjoyable and stress free life one needs to get enough sleep.

6) Eat right and exercise regularly:- Eating right and exercising regularly are among the great tools in reducing stress both for long and short term results. If we look at the short term results, if one overeats or does not eat enough, the body itself would be in stress and it would be impossible not to feel stressed, lazy and agitated in those situations. When one exercises, there will be an increase of blood flow in the body then as we may have all experienced, there is a feeling of great ease and relaxation afterwards. To look at the long term results, both eating right and exercising regularly help in generating and maintaining a healthy body and mind thus a more relaxed, stress free state of being. 

7) Make and maintain good friends:- We as humans are social animals and just the reality of having someone to talk to reduces stress significantly. Having good friends certainly eases the stress that may be experienced by anyone in many ways. One can go out and have fun with friends which certainly is a lot more enjoyable than doing it alone. The other benefit that one may have of having friends to reduce stress is, one can go and talk to a good friend that one can trust about troubling issues and may find support for the problems and comfort by sharing it with someone else instead of keeping it to self and facing it alone.

8) Be an environment suitable for you:- If one wants to get rid of stress one has to get rid of the stress triggers. If the environment that one lives in is stress triggering for that particular person, that person has to change the environment in order to lesson the amount of stress.

9) Meditate and do yoga:- Meditation and yoga have been proven as one of the greatest and most effective agents in reducing stress and improving physical and mental health as a whole.

10) Have a distant relationship with your thoughts:- One of the major agents of stress if not the major is thought. We may thing that we are in control of our thoughts. But one may be in for a surprise if one tries to stop thinking. Being overwhelmed and drowned by our thoughts is one of the major if not the major agent of stress. 

So what one has to do is try to control one's thoughts. But that is not as easy as it sounds and infact is impossible. 

One of the most effective ways of having some kind of control over our thoughts is instead of trying to stop thinking, one could just disassociate and observe thoughts without judging them, trying to stop or control them or trying to add any thought over them and just observe them as they come and go. This would legitimately give a separate entity of one from thought. This is a very effective way of reducing stress significantly.

11) Make a habit of being in the now:- Being in the now whenever one doesn't have to think or make agendas helps a lot in relaxing one's mind and enjoying anything that life throws at one. Making a time for such a practice helps in the short term and especially in the long run.

How to have a logical mindset.

Being logical is and has been the fundamental building block of modern civilization, science and development. Being logical means being reasonable and mainly backed by evidence.

Although everybody thinks that they are logical, being real logical has its catch.

Here are some tips on how to develop a logical mindset.

1) Increase your knowledge:- Knowledge is power. By increasing one's knowledge one would be exposed to different ideas and thoughts and would give one ground in scattering one's views into different angles.

2) Question everything:- In order to have a totally logical mindset, one has to question everything even those things that one thinks that shouldn't be questioned.

3) Do not take sides in reasoning out:-  Taking sides for one's own benefit is common and reasonable. But when trying to figure things out in order to understand things one shouldn't take any sides for it is common for one to take side and believe in what one wants to believe in.

Why does music move us?(It moves us according to our own vibe.)

Music as we know is one of the most influential things in the world. It has been seen that music does not only effect humans but animals and plants as well. For us humans, music can stress, relax, move and influence us as a whole.

Why is music this powerful? What powers and spell does it posses in it? 

Music is actually an emitance of  a prearranged range of vibrations and usually accompanied by words.

Vibration is an essential element in nature. Some scientists even claim that all is made of vibrations to begin with and that vibration is the essential nature of everything in this reality.

Vibrations also are nowadays used to sooth and relax people in some places.

Music naturally being a vibration or set of vibrations, the vibration of music touches and moves one according to the vibe of one's own mind set and the vibe of the state of mind that one is in at the time one hears the music and the words that are smeared with it enforces the effect or reduces it according to the vibe of the state of mind that one is in.

There is no such thing as absolute chaos.(All things are governed by the law of nature.)

One of the most frightening ideas that humans may have is of chaos. But what is chaos? Should we really be afraid of it?

To make things short, we shouldn't be that afraid of chaos. The reason behind this notion is that absolute chaos doesn't exist. 

Absolute chaos means no rule or law or governance whatsoever so that all things happen uncontrollably and unreasonably. That is not possible in any reality because all things are governed by the law of nature. Reality itself originates from the law of nature. Thus we can say that there is no such a thing as absolute chaos.

In order to avoid chaos things should change slowly.(There is a limit by nature that limits the pace of change of everything.)

Change is a fundamental part of anything and everything except for maybe our own soul. Everything changes and is in a constant momentum of change.

We as humans and the environment and conditions we live in also change constantly. Change may occur for the good and maybe for the bad.

There is a limit set by nature that limits the pace of change of everything. But that varies according to the situation and particular subject experiencing change and the method used to bring about the change.

Fast change requires tremendous energy and less time, slow change requires less energy and more time.

Imagine drinking a very cold cup of water and immediately after drinking a very hot tea, it would for sure bring some pain in the body and probably let a tooth or two loose. Also try to imagine putting a fist on one's face at a very quick pace and then imagine the same thing at a very slow pace. At the quick pace one is for sure to experience bruises. 

Concerning change, it goes the same with everything almost all the time. The main area that this article wants to concentrate on is change in our attitude, action and environment. Bringing change in those areas for the good is a good thing but like in everything else, trying to bring a quick and drastic change may bring catastrophes along with it. 

Why aren't machines alive? To be alive is to be a slave to self.

In the world we live in today, we are witnesses to incredible machines that do extraordinary things and things that are extremely hard and even impossible for us humans to do. When we see that, we may somehow be intimidated by the idea of what may happen if they become aware of themselves and masters of their own.

Machines becoming masters of their own is a terrifying thought as they can be a lot quicker, stronger and have a greater danger endurance that us. If they become aware, it would be arguable that they would also be smarter than us. That reality may put us humans or even natural life forms in danger.

What makes the machines enslaved to us? What prevents them from owning a life and becoming aware of self? Where is the dividing line?

It is very evident and logical that things of significant meaning to a beholder and beholders as a whole and also things like life don't happen improperly. They must have a proper legitimacy in order for them to exist. If one looks at nature and the way reality unfolds, there is a general properness to everything. If it be proper for machines to obtain life then they will.

What is it to be alive though? What is the dividing line? What do machines need to posses in order to be legitimate to be alive? As stated earlier there is a legitimacy to everything in nature.

Well in order to be legitimately alive, machines need to be slaves of their own. If they are complex they need to be slaves and masters of their own. It is the same with any life form. To be alive is to be a slave to self, or in advanced cases to be a slave and a master of self.

Just be!

It may seem like a joke but "just being" sometimes is harder than it sounds. Although many may look at the idea of just being as something inferior to the major list of things they have to do, many may be surprised that just being is one of the major triggers in fact arguably the top trigger of real happiness in life. 

Many spiritual leaders with real implications of they themselves being in a state of lasting happiness teach that just being and being in the now is the ultimate bliss that one can achieve. 

It may have come easy for them but is not at all easy to reach that state in many cases. Our mind for example is something that we evidently have little control on. One way of knowing that is by trying to stop thinking for two hours or even 20 mutinies straight. If one has tried it, one would see that it is not in one's control to stop thinking. 

It is also evident that when we are around others, it is very hard to just be. There are many things that come in our minds and that we have no control of. "Do I look ok?", "why is that guy looking at me?", am I in a right position?", "do I look cool?" etc. There also are feelings that we have no control of that come along with those thoughts. There are also formalities that we may have to follow when we are around others. Being drowned in so many thoughts projected by the mind, it is inevitable to be some how in the grip of the mind. We of course ride along with it and thus we can not just be.  So just being becomes something that is rather hard to do unlike what we may think when we hear the notion "just be".

So just being may have some threads behind it. There may be other things one may have to do in order to completely just be. The mind actually has tricks in order to put us under its grip in order for us to be in its realm rather than just be.

At first we do have to have a legitimate authority to control the drive of our mind. We also can play tricks of our own to our own mind in order to slide out of its grip. But being totally free of it is something that is a complete different story with a completely different outcome.

What is our purpose in life?

The question "what is my purpose in life?" comes through one's mind quite a few times during one's lifetime.

Many believe that there is a destiny set by a higher power to all of us and they are also many that believe that there is no such a thing as destiny.

Being a human being, it is unavoidable to feel a want for some kind of meaning and purpose. The notion that there is no meaning or purpose would definitely make any human being devoid of something and would leave an empty space in our hearts.

I guess unless we as humans are all knowing, there can't be a definite and sure answer to the question "what is my purpose in life?" One can not say one's ideas about this puzzle is for sure right and the others is for sure wrong because we have yet to know a lot.

We can however go about trying to see this puzzle in a logical way and according to evidences we have and know till date.

According to all the evidences that we human beings have and gathered until now and seeing this puzzle from a point of view of an individual, we may not have been created or made to have or fulfill individualistic purposes. Meaning to say that we as individuals were not created for individualistic purpose and meaning that were preset for us by something else. This is actually according to the insights we have now and may change according to new logical evidences. Even though that may be the case we still are free to have and be devoted to any purpose we choose to have and follow. Also we are free to make any meaning of it all.

When looking at it in a different perspective and not in a perspective of an individual, we were created to fulfill life's/nature's purpose. Meaning to say that life wants to exist and ensure the extension of its existence in this realm now. Not only that, but life also wants to figure all out about this reality through us and for us according to our nature of existence. This is because life is actually us. We are the representatives.

The above notion is a direct result of the scientific evidences till date on the way life exists, reproduces, evolves and on the way how life or evolution reacts to individuals in need and species as a whole. It is also based on logic made by observing the evidences like on what we are as life and what life is itself.

What are feelings?

Feelings are senses that a conscience life form senses. It is a mechanism devised by nature/life/ that enables life forms to feel their surrounding, strive for pleasure in it and run away from dangers in it.

Feelings are actually crucial in making life life. Without feelings, life would be senseless and illogical. So, are feelings real? Of course they are real but they are only real when there is an experiencer or a sensor.

But why do we experience things the way we do? Is that the only way that they can be experienced? Meaning to say, is the sense of burning the only way that fire can be felt? Is sweetness the only way sugar can be fealt?

That most probably is not it. We feel to the tune of the way that is suitable and unsuitable, desirable and undesirable for life to exist in this realm. The extent at which we feel is also the extent at which the action done while feeling is good for our body's survival or bad for it. So it all depends on the sensitivity of the mechanism that nature gave us to be alive which is our body. 

The mechanism that make life exist or mechanisms like us can't exist in cases like extreme heat or cold and hence the feeling of burning and chill and thus discomfort. The differences and distinctions between feelings is for us/life forms to know exactly what is going on when we feel them. The comfort and discomfort which is generally the main objective of feeling is for our conscience or sub conscience to know whether what we are doing is suitable or unsuitable for life to continue its existence at its present form.

How to know one self

Knowing oneself is actually a basic to anything one wants to do in today's world or reach a level of happiness that one wants to achieve conceptually.

These tips on how to know oneself are actually most helpful for those at around the beginning of knowing themselves.

Here are few tips on how to know oneself.

1) It may take a lot of time:-  One needs to know that knowing self is not a one minute thing. It is there to stay for the whole life and to know one self it takes a long time.

2) Spend time with yourself:- At the beginning of the stage one needs to spend time with self and review honestly what is going on in one's life.

3) Get acquainted with all your feelings:- Getting acquainted with one's feelings is a very crucial step. Even if and especially if the feelings are unpleasant, one needs to face them, see them and figure out what to do with them so that one is totally comfortable with them. This again is the most crucial step.

3) Be wholeheartedly true to challenges, desires and happiness felt by self and deal with them according to the honest reasoning given:-  While spending time with self one will definitely feel and notice a lot of things. Challenges, desires and happiness. One needs to be honest in seeing them and then going down and dirty in them. Then if there are things that one needs to do to handle certain things one should handle them according to the honest reasoning that one gave them on how to tackle them.

4) Be honest and let go of things that one can't control or do after honestly reasoning them out:- When one gets in touch with self, one will notice a lot of things and feelings like desire, happiness and challenge. One definitely has to take care of the challenges and all the feelings until one is very comfortable. But when facing these feelings, after trying and reasoning, if one can't do anything about those feelings, one needs to let go and know that no answer is the answer.

5) Don't shy away from personal challenges:- In order to know the weakness and strength of one one need to face up to personal challenges especially ones that concern the self. One never should give them time or shy away from them. This is very crucial.

6) Know likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses:- Having spent a lot of time with self, facing personal challenges and getting acquainted with personal feelings one is for sure to know what one likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.

Every story is a lesson to be learned and a value to be set

We are born into this world blank, with no idea of what's going on and what to do except for the instinct given to us by nature. As human beings, we have it in our nature to learn constantly. Even if we don't weather we like it or not life constantly learns from our experience.

Living in the modern age we encounter different experiences and hear different stories which may be diverse in basis or somehow similar to each other.

Even though some experiences may disturb our chosen way of living, it is good to learn some kind of lesson from all sides.

If one really thinks about it, from all the experiences, there is a lesson to be learned. In fact all experiences are lessons to be learned directly or collectively. Lesson learned inevitably leads to setting up values according to the lessons learned.

Who are we?

We are mechanisms that consist of all components that work together to be able to make us function as we do. It is kind of unacceptable though to us humans to think that we are just a result of materials/ components working together. But if we think logically we are just that. According to science(which is a very logical field to refer to), we came from non being to being a very long time ago when some components of the earth or chemicals, lightning, water and the atmosphere of the earth at the time sparked up and brewed up the first single cellular life forms. After that through millions of years of evolution we got to the point that we are.

If we put faith aside for a moment and try to just reason out according to evidences, this is the best we can do to explain ourselves.

But we have this feeling, this gut feeling that we are way bigger and have way deeper meaning to us. Could that be true?

Well it just might. In fact it is somehow evident we are.

There is something that remains a mystery to science about us. In fact the whole scenario of life is still a mystery. But the real mystery is how and why life evolves. Life seems to know ho and when to evolve. When it evolves it evolves in a reasonable and useful way. Also when species evolve, a whole population of a species evolve the same way. How and why? How does it know? Who is it that knows? It is a total mystery to science. It is also very likely that it will remain a mystery because of the fact that science only deals with things that can be observed and proved also the root of this phenomenon called life is something that can't be observed at all.

There are lots of theories outside of science on what we are. It is hard to judge on which is right and which is wrong. But many including myself believe, if looked deeply enough, they all or some or one may of them may be true.

The logical explanation though believed by some including myself is that we are life itself. If thought logically and according to evidences of observations, this idea seems to make perfect sense and is perfectly logical. We are life and life is us. Life itself being untouchable, unobservable and overall not sensible to us as humans, it is something that is evident to be much larger than us us humans in meaning and in wisdom and to top it all off it is clearly evident that we are it itself. Mind boggling isn't it?

How to be a good liar

Telling a lie is not something that is advisable unless it is completely and absolutely necessary. It is also not advisable for those whose beliefs prevent them from telling a lie at any situation.

According to many, sometimes lying is abselutely necessary and it can prevent some unwanted things from happening in our lives.

Sometimes not being good at lying can even get us in more trouble that net telling a lie and getting in trouble.

Well here are some tips on how to tell a good lie and be a good liar.

1) believe the lie yourself:- Sometimes people can detect a lie just by seeing one's eyes and the way one acts when telling a lie. In order for that not to happen, one has to believe the lie. If one momentarily believes in the lie, one wouldn't show the signs that one may show when telling a lie one didn't believe in.

2) Try to get real convictions to the story so that it would be easy to believe the lie:- For example if one wants to tell a lie stating that one is sick when one is really not, one can try to

- imagine that one is sick while telling the lie

- try to think of little discomforts that one has at the time one is telling a lie and try to believe that they are sicknesses themselves.

- think of a recent sickness and believe that it hasn't completely been cured even if it did and even if it did try to believe that there are some aftereffects.

The above tips help in believing the lie so that those hearing the lie wouldn't detect it on one's face.

3) Don't think of the truth or the fact that you are telling a lie but be bold faced:- Thinking of the truth and the fact that one is lying while telling a lie makes it terribly obvious that one is lying to those that are listening.

4) Try to connect to the stories and try to be emotional according to your normal accord :- Don't over do or under do this step. Because your normal state of feelings are best fit for you. 

5) Don't be afraid to look at the listener right in the eye:- Looking at the listener right in the eye makes the listener think that one has a full confidence and therefore must be telling the truth.

6) Stick to the story:- For one's lie to work in the long term, one should stick to the story through thick and thin whatever happens.